Popular film industry lawyer, Kudirat Dolapo, has taken to her social media page to speak about Iyabo Ojo’s ex-husband and the role he plays in their children’s lives.
Just a few weeks after Priscilla Ojo’s wedding ceremony, she praised him for being a remarkable father figure and commended his involvement in his children’s upbringing.
A FAILED MARRIAGE IS NOT A FAILED FATHERHOOD
Men!!!
See ehn, not all broken marriages produce absent fathers. A man can stop loving his wife and still deeply love his children. A failed marriage isn’t failed parenthood. Don’t confuse the two.
We cannot keep preaching gender equality while denying men their rightful fatherly moments just to soothe emotional wounds. If a man is willing and present, the child deserves a chance without inherited tension.
I see single mothers carrying heavy burdens alone. I honour them and pray they eat the full fruit of their labour in peace. However, not every single mother is truly alone. Some fathers are quietly involved, even if they don’t make noise about it.
The internet loves to paint all men with the same brush, but not all men are irresponsible. Some men are really trying and they show up. There are also t0x!c women, just as there are t0x!c men. Life is about finding who fits and can handle your truth.
Too many children grow up on one sided stories. When they finally meet their fathers, they realise someone blocked the door. When that truth eventually hits, they begin to resent the one who locked them out.
To the single mothers; I say this with love and deep respect… if you and your ex partner part ways, don’t raise your daughters with b!tt€rn€$s or your sons with bl@me. Not every man is horr!bl€ and not every father is an oloriburuku. Every breakup mustn’t turn into w@r when kids are i
Let the child grow and decide. If the father is wi<k€d, they’ll see it with time. Don’t program their judgment. Don’t f!ght a man and raise your child to inherit your p@in.
Even if you’re bl€€ding from b€tr@yal, know when to draw the line between your wound and your parenting. That is maturity, strength and true love.🥰
Never w€ponize your p@in through the children. Even if your heart is brok€n, don’t fracture your child’s future.
Children deserve access to both parents. Not just school fees, gifts, or parties. What shapes a whole child is connection with both parents. Let them grow with a full sense of identity. It helps them stand taller in life.